God made each of us with different personalities and different families to make a fun and useful world as we cooperate. Men and women and emotions is yet another issue of how God made us different.
Men can block off their emotions in crisis and be great. Women can keep emotions open and can comfort in ways that men often cannot.
In the post modern age, many women are learning to be tough and succeed in a man’s world. Men are not crossing over as much.
In marriage, women see husbands being too tough and use comfort to balance. Each spouse is in their own corner. That is a problem. See also What is Christian Marriage?
What is God’s Intent For Giving Differences For Men and Women and Emotions?
Surely, children needed to have someone who believes they can climb the mountain and hear then when they are not ready. In the work place and ministry it can be the same.
It does not work for either side to abandon what they have. God give us these abilities for His good reasons.
However, in marriage he asks these two different people to become one. They should not retreat to their corners and be far apart defending their turf.
What Can We Do?
Men need to face the hard task of seeing their own emotions more deeply and so thus take the first step toward seeing other people’s feelings. Over time, this gives men the ability to love with their heart. This does not mean they need to abandon their ability to face the mountain. It is an additional ability that makes the first ability more valuable to those around us. It is not a quick path, but one God wants us to face this one for his glory. Being brave and facing discomfort is something we are made for, We can be something more. See also How Did Psychology Help My Faith?
Women often have already started to learn how to master what men have. Unfortunately, in crisis, they often lose it and fall to the softer side. In marriage, they can retreat to their corner. Once again this is a great ability women usually have. It should not be trashed as from God, but adding to it by learning from these men when to shut off emotions can be a great help in certain crises or when it is time to step up. It is good to make this step toward men and to be something more.
In summary, we all have a valuable base, and we can gather in more for God made us to grow and live more.