Notably, I diagnose as an Asperger Syndrome person. Professional counselors more and more call this a person with tendencies in the autistic range. To me that means I have my own package of gaps and everyone has their own gaps. This one of mine has a name.
No person is whole in this life. We all have gaps either in our DNA or in what we learned in this life, particularly early childhood.
God knows and sees this.
As an example, I know a guy whose hair does not grow hardly at all and who easily breaks bones and has great trouble recovering. He further has diabetes and cannot run or carry heavy things at all. Moreover, he is the third generation of males in his family to have this condition. I cannot find any name for this condition. Mine has a name.
Mine and his show some genetic disposition that makes things harder for us.
My problem led me to get depressed in middle school and in my mid twenties for nearly 2 years each time.
Other people grew up in dysfunctional families where they were hurt in ways that would take a lifetime to overcome.
All of us were hurt in some way. None of that means we cannot love our neighbor and live lives that honor God. It does mean our path needs more help.
Learning I am a Christian with Asperger
I started getting counseling that ultimately helped identify me as an Asberger person three years ago. It was enlightening to see why it was harder for me to grasp connecting emotionally with my family than others I see around me who work on it. I should have gotten counseling long long before. See also Does God Like Psychology?
Part of my problem was my father was an undiagnosed Asperger person. He influenced me by his example to not try to connect. My mother repressed a ton, so hard to emotionally connect with anyone. I lacked some DNA, and my parents had nothing to help me begin to face it. It has made things very hard for my wife foremost. Also, I would not be able to write about this without her efforts to make me a living human person.
In summary, I think it is good for each of us to see our gaps and get help. Help does exist. Finding the right counselor can take some effort just like you may need a second opinion at the hospital.