Dying For Your Wife – What’s With This?

Dying for your wife is Biblically commanded. See passage below

In Ephesians 5, there is the key passage on marriage

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

We men often think “sure I can jump in front of the bus for my wife ” to save her. That is good but it is not the final understanding of what the Bible is saying.

At base line Jesus gave and gives us a lot or grace. Lets unpack this yet more.

Most girlfriends and wives want to be spoiled by their men. What is this about? Women put themselves out there for the world and their children.  Further, they are always working to find better ways to be all they can be. They keep growing and changing. Therefore, the Bible is asking their spouses to give them grace.

Women seem to more naturally give grace to their husbands until these wives are worn out.

Dying For Your Wife is Not a Question of Fairness

Men often want to be fair and are driven by fairness. This is far from giving grace. Dying to self comes when our wives need something more than fair from husbands.

When wives are unreasonable and easily irritated, it is a sign they need more grace and are missing some grace. They are asking us to die here. This is an emotional bus we need to step in front of to save our wives. God accepts all our unreasonableness, and he asks us to do the same for our wives.

I have written that in the first two years of marriage, women tend to give too much grace to their husbands and then get critical from then on. To undue this issue means men need to spoil their wives more as a matter of habit. Let us give more grace to our wives. Often we can get a smile our of them when we take care of then so well and see them in their need. They need sunshine and will often reflect when they are able. However, God did not say give 25 cents and wait for a dollar back. We are called to do for our wives what Jesus did for the church. Let’s hear the call.