Fairness or Love One Another?

What is fair? Fairness or one love one another?

My family is starting to send kids to college in quick succession. As such, we are liquidating the rental house we own to help pay for it.

I am thrilled by how it has gained in value even while we sometimes could rent it out these 8 years. But here is the hitch.

I like things to be stable and not change.  Um, my 2 younger children and wife like change a lot. So, things started to move, and finally they all decided that they want to sell our home and move into the unoccupied rental.

My heart is unhappy. So much work and so much loss. I love our home.  My thought tends to focus on my loss if we do that.

However, what about love one another? I am not so sure that I want fair.

I could agree and say they owe me for example.  That would be fair.

Fairness or Love One Another Seems Not the Same

God help me. May I not seek fair.

My family loves me and wants the best for me actually. Why do I want to count my sacrifice?  Or manipulate them to be nice to me?

This move will be inconvenient for everyone. However, they are happy to face the inconvenience. Why do I want to count the cost?

As I have loved you… Why would I not simply be happy seeing them happy? Will not their happiness give me energy to face some of the minor inconveniences?

Loving my family is certainly the same as loving myself. Better actually. Jesus does not ask us to always be a doormat. We need to have boundaries like Jesus did. However, we can choose to love people in a way that is hard for us. Choose to love is something different than sacrifice for the team. My job is to choose what is best for our family and not just what appears the best for me. That is leadership just like, though in vastly smaller degree, what Jesus did.

Thank you, God, for your love and guidance to us fairness people. You want to show us a new life. Help me in this time, and help us all to open out hearts to love people as we have been loved in Christ Jesus.

This song helped me see here. May I and we all learn to love one another.