The Challenge of Christian Family

So, God in the Bible says do not divorce. In ancient times and today, the means to avoid that path of divorce needs new paths. The challenge of Christian family is always big and needs much more thought.  Jesus said love one another. He gave a path but left the details for each culture and time to work out.

There are so many reasons why Christians see family as a huge challenge, Here, lets think about this and how we can face them.

Marriage is the first challenge. People raised in two different families have different thoughts on marriage, family, and life. No one is at fault in this, but these differences can be hard for couples to overcome. My father was a fighter at work and in politics. I got that from him somehow, and it has often made some trouble for me and thus my dear wife. This is an innocuous example.

They go on and on. Such habits are hard to change. Fighting style’s are different for example. In a fight, I withdraw, and my wife attacks. Neither is happy with this. With a lot of work we have made big progress on this one that really helps!

Everyone is afraid to be vulnerable and say what they are really feeling. Let us face down fear and open up our deepest feelings with our family who loves us.

So Many Aspects of the Challenge of Christian Family

Women unknowingly bury their needs in the first two years of marriage and then cannot keep burying and unload on their unsuspecting husband. Men commonly never say what they are really feeling. Many men do not even know what they are really feeling. All this naturally happens to two people who love each other but may not have expected the difficulties they got.

Children arrive and unknown needs and behaviors emerge. Parenting styles differ and friction comes. Instead of compromising to come to middle ground. couples balance by going to opposite poles for each other thus harming oneness. Mom’s tend to put children first harming oneness. Men may put their own Mom or work first harming oneness.

Children go to school and this adds stress to marriage. Children leave the home and that adds change that is stress.  Every stage influences the family in different ways.

Kids have so many needs and need safety to say them all which is not easy for them. What child can say their deepest secret to their father? Theses gaps are bad, and we must work to be safe people, so children can be open to us as parents. We must be able to apply grace and truth together in each case. Fortunately, God does not leave us alone to do this, We have his power and fellowship to help us find a way,